A Message From President Pam

Fall is here and our weather is cooling off but our Soroptimist members are heating up with involvement in all sorts of activities.  Yesterday, 11 of us represented our club at the Sample of Sierra at Bijou Park where we sold bottles of wine.  We haven’t had time to look at the finances yet so I can’t tell you how successful it was as a fundraiser for our club, but as a friend-raiser it was a huge success.  In addition to selling wine, we spent the day informing members of our community about our club’s activities and how we support our community and Pat Disney sold some winetasting tickets and got a donation to our winetasting.  Thank you to Cheryl Chambers, Kathleen Brown, Aletha Nelligan, Laurel Nizich, Hanna Bernard, Ginger Mitchell, Colleen Manzer, Michelle Ludiker, Liz Beispel and Pat Disney for helping at the event. And thanks to Donna McLelland and Louisa Boone for helping me with some of the preliminary work.

 

At the same time we were planning our participation in Sample the Sierra we were busy working with SI Tahoe Sierra (SITS) planning the District 5 meeting which will be held on Saturday, October 13, at the Beach Retreat and Lodge here in Tahoe.  It is not often that we have the opportunity to attend a District meeting without traveling.  I hope you will take advantage of this and sign up to attend this meeting where you will have a wonderful opportunity to visit with other members of our club, meet members of other Soroptimist clubs in our District and hear about what is going on in our District and Region.  We will have a table at the meeting where Mickey Madden, member of our Partners Against Trafficking Committee, will be sharing information about our club’s anti-trafficking efforts with Partners Against Human Trafficking (PATH); we will auction a gift basket being put together by Liz Beispel; and Pat Disney will sell winetasting tickets. The guest speaker will be D. Jean Creasey from the Kellerman Foundation and Happy Dollars will be donated to the Kellerman Foundation.  My goal is to have at least 20 of our members attend.  Your $39 registration fee will be paid by the club.  If you have not been at a meeting to sign up, please email me at zippygirl1@att.net to let me know you will attend.

In addition to all this, the club’s new Foundation Advisory Committee, chaired by Annie Davidson, has begun its work to recommend a future course for our Soroptimist Club.  See below for Annie’s committee report.

Actions Taken at the May Board and Business Meetings

The Board recommended and the Club approved the following actions at the September 12 Business meeting:

–consolidating funds and purchasing 3 CDs totaling $200,000

–changing the name of the Violet Richardson Award to “The Soroptimist G.I.V.E. (Girls Into Volunteer Experiences) Award”

–$3,750 from the Contingency Fund to cover the purchase of approximately 22 cases of wine and other expenses for Samplethe Sierra.  Assuming the sale of the wine, these funds will be returned to the Contingency Fund after the event.

 

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The Foundations Advisory Committee By Annie Davidson

President Pam Barrett charged a committee of 10 people to recommend a course for our Soroptimist Club. We all sense the need to clarify who we are, what we need from SISLT, and how we will build a future South Tahoe community that we all  cherish. So that’s big! No one here takes this charge lightly. We want to do more than make our Club survive: we want to make the Club thrive. Make it breath and stretch and grow.

Julie Gudaitis <jgudaitis@gmail.com>,
Jennifer Lukins <jennlukins@gmail.com>,
Natasha Schue <natashakidman@gmail.com>,
Liz Beispel <ebeispel@aol.com>,
Pam Barrett <zippygirl1@att.net>,
Cheryl Chambers <cherylchambers58@gmail.com>,
Abby Ouimet <abby.ouimet@gmail.com>,
Jan Gurnee <we4trvl@ail.com>,
Elizabeth Palmer <Elizabeth.Palmer@ampf.com>,                            Annie Davidson <annehdavidson@gmail.com>

As a first step, we asked members who came to the September 12th lunch the first of a series of questions we plan to ask at meetings. Twenty-five people participated by answering our question: “What do you love the most about our South Shore community?” Thank you to all who joined in! All responses are at the end of this submission. You will see that VERY clear themes came through:
  • Beautiful environment with lots of healthy, outdoor activities/lifestyle options. Quote: “I love the amazing natural environment that exists here and the love for this environment that is evidence in our population. Also, the availability of quality outdoor activities to participate in year round.” 
  • Safe, friendly, “small town” community. Quote: “Small town feeling” (I love that! Sounds like a song…)
  • How we support each other (individually, non-profits, schools, clubs). Quote: “When needs arise, one or more community organizations rise to meet those community needs.”  
At the 9/19 meeting, we will ask: “What scares you the most about the future of our South Shore community?” 
 
Also, we are lucky to have Abby Ouimet (who is a professional facilitator for groups like SISLT) facilitate a November meeting using the SWOT approach. Stay tuned.

Here are all the responses from the first question. Enjoy!

SISLT Lunch Meeting 9/12/18
Question 1 “What do you love the most about our South Shore community?” 
(Each bullet is one person’s response. All are anonymous.)
  • The blend of the natural environment within the community
  • Seeing familiar faces wherever I go
  • The “small town” – good aspects – support, warmth, also the relaxed atmosphere of a mountain town
  • The access to recreational activities, the diversity of our population, that we are a bi-state community, the fact that we are a “small town” community
  • Small town feel, outdoor activities right out our door, lots of community groups and activities, our LT Wildlife Care, community members are very supportive when there is a need, our lovely lake and the environmental focus to preserve our pristine area
  • I love the amazing natural environment that exists here and the love for this environment that is evidence in our population. Also, the availability of quality outdoor activities to participate in year round.
  • I love the sense of community in South Shore.
  • The beauty of the lake, my friends here
  • The beautiful area and all the activities available, the wonderful people and how everyone looks out for each other
  • I love the people. It is very easy to meet people and the folks seem to really come together when needed. I love the recreational activities available to us in our beautiful environment.
  • Small community, the beauty of our surroundings
  • Small town, lots of service organizations that support our community, beauty of our location, recreational opportunities
  • Small town feeling, supporting those in need, the beauty of our area
  • The natural beauty and the people
  • (1) The beauty of the lake and mountains, (2) The community overall does/can pull together to support our nonprofits and service agencies (like LVF and FRC), (3) The schools, especially that each elementary has a special focus, (4) Friendships/support of SISLT/SITS
  • Sense of family – and how “giving” this community is!
  • Art and music events, friendly people, beauty
  • Friendly people – willing to share information and assistance
  • The physical environment: mts., lake, trees
  • When needs arise, one or more community organizations rise to meet those community needs.
  • Nature and beauty! Surprised how many different groups there are. (Cliquish?) Opportunities for health and wellness. Good lifestyle. 9-5 isn’t the norm. Different is accepted.
  • Small town feeling, the people, great place to raise children
  • I have met friends for life through Tahoe.
  • (1) Clean air and water, (2) mostly healthy attitude of residents
  • Beautiful lake and mountains, small, friendly, and community-oriented
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Please Send Your Photo!

To All Members:

If you did not attend the 60th Anniversary Party and have your photo taken, please take a selfie, chest up, and submit to Colleen Manzer via email: ccmanzer@gmail.com  We will publish photos of our entire club in part of our campaign to connect with the community, and preserve them along with the rest of our historical documentation.

Thank You!

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September Thought by Lucie King

I am not afraid.

I was born to love and so were you

It’s a joyful and satisfying job to do.

What a world of choices there are to serve

While holding enough for yourself in reserve

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NEWSMONGER   By Linda Mendizabal

Member ELLEN PALAZZO is running for City Clerk and SUE NOVASEL is seeking her second term as Supervisor – election is November 6 … NATASHA SCHUE has a sweet kitty that would like a quieter home than hers with a dog and 2 active boys … BROOKE OLIVARES-LAINE has moved on from U.S. Bank but is enjoying a Tahoe Summer before taking on a new employment challenge …  ELLEN GOLDBERG attended a meeting while in town … JULIA GUDAITIS had a 3 week adventure through Russia this summer … CINDY ARCHER, ALETHA NELLIGAN and their spouses had a robust backpacking trip: they forgot their tent on the first night and had to walk out and back the 10 miles to retrieve it! … VIRGINIA and Norm GLENN cruised to Cuba this summer … ANNIE DAVIDSON enjoyed visiting New England … LINDA MITCHELL took part in “Toccata” at St. Theresa’s … 49 year member BETTY MITCHELL has moved to Eskaton in Placerville – we have contact info if you wish to call or visit her … JOYCE BLACKSTONE-TURNER and hubby, Ron, have sold both of their state street homes and moved to Cabo San Lucas: their 2nd home there is now their year ‘round abode – and they make a mean margarita for friends that drop in while passing through … CATHY DONOVAN is COLLEEN MANZER’S new neighbor thanks to the first house CATHY chose falling out of escrow – both are lucky, eh? … MICKEY and Doug MADDEN’s daughter, Kendra & her husband have moved back to Tahoe – yay for adult children! … CHERYL CHAMBERS survived the “big six-oh” …  LINDA MENDIZABAL is enjoying summer before having the ‘other’ knee replaced at the end of Sep. … we are saddened to report that former member LINDY MATEAS has died of cancer – a memorial is being held Sep. 15 near her home in Windsor … former member ANN SWALLOW’s husband, Rich, died of Alzheimer’s – a memorial will be held Sep. 22 at Valhalla at 1:00 pm.

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5 Myths About Human Trafficking & Protecting Your Kids

Submitted by Cindy Archer, written by Shontell Brewer Foreverymom.com

Parenting sure isn’t for the faint of heart. Remember when you thought that talking to your kids about sex was uncomfortable? Well, I found a topic that feels even more terrifying. It’s called “How not to get trafficked.”

You may think you know the basics: that human trafficking is really happening in your city and neighborhoods. But you’d be surprised at how subtle this operation really is. This topic is vital today. We can’t afford to skip it.

Your teens and tweens are a trafficker’s target market. Before you think, “Ten seems too early to have such a serious discussion, right? It can wait.” Friends, let me caution you.

Traffickers think your ten-year-old is the perfect age. Which is why this conversation HAS to happen.

Not all ten-year-olds will be at risk in this area. But every kid, boy girl, rich or poor, broken home or seemingly together home—none of these factors change the level of risk our kids face in this area.

So, what does that other kid have that at-risk kids don’t? Parents who are willing to brave the sweaty armpits and foreseeable awkwardness to talk candidly with their kids.

The topic of human trafficking is no longer optional if we want to protect our children. And before you think the words, “My kid would never fall for this,” let me tell you that I have worked with girls who have already been and are currently being trafficked. They come in all ages, shapes, sizes, and families.

Traffickers have made an evil art form out of their work. They are so smooth our kids don’t even know it’s happening. Their approach? To offer your child what they want most in the world. A place to feel loved, special, and noticed.

Here are a 5 myths you need to know to protect your kids from human trafficking. 

1. Human trafficking is a result of poverty.

Financial status has nothing to do with it. As a matter of fact, the most affluent school in my city holds the record for our highest caseload of trafficked minors. A recent meeting with an FBI agent in the crimes against children department told us point blank, “Your money has nothing to do with it. In fact, it seems to give a false sense of security to communities.” He went on to tell us that abuse, family dysfunction, and addictions take place just as much in high socio-economic areas as in poverty stricken areas.

2. Human trafficking is the same as kidnapping.

This myth is too thickly planted in our misunderstanding of human trafficking.

Awaken, a local anti-trafficking organization, has helped nearly 400 women and girls and not one of them was ever kidnapped. In fact, the majority of them (especially minors) were trafficked right through social media apps. Snapchat, Facebook, Instagram, Audio Manager, Calculator%, Vaulty, Burn Note, Line, Omegle, Tinder, Blendr, KiK messenger, Yik Yak, Ask.fm, Yubo (formerly Yellow), Reddit, and Tik Tok (formerly Musical.ly) are just some of the apps traffickers are using to secretly connect with your child’s smart phone. Any place where private messages can take place is a bad place for your kid to be. Traffickers are willing to spend months grooming your child.

Grooming is an industry term that means a person (man, woman, guy, or girl) spends time online in a private chat space getting to know your child’s favorite everything and building trust through relationship before suggesting an in person meet up. By then, what feels like true relationships have been formed. Our kids have found someone who agrees that their parents “just don’t get it,” and many times our kids believe this is a genuinely intimate relationship.

Many times, sexting has already taken place. Another FBI agent told me he conducts social media safety classes in middle school classes across the state. His first question is, “How many of you have ever sent a nude picture of yourself to someone over your phone?” Without fail, fifty percent of the students raise their hands. His second question is, “How many of you have ever been asked to send a nude photo of yourself?” Again, without fail, the admission raises to 80% of the class.

3. Only girls are affected by human trafficking.

While we don’t see as many cases of boys being trafficked as we see with girls, it still happens. Even if they aren’t the ones being trafficked, they are affected because their sisters, cousins, and friends just may be at risk. But most importantly, we need to be just as vigilant with our young men to set the standard that buying women is never right. We have the opportunity to teach them to stand up for the women who forget they have a voice.

4. Your child would never fall for a human trafficking ploy.

Ever hear of Maslow’s hierarchy? It’s the well proven theory that humans must have basic needs covered to function in everyday life. At the foundation of this pyramid—and therefore the most important need—is physiological needs. Clothes, food, shelter, air, sleep. The basics, right? Then comes safety: personal security, a safe place to speak up, resources, health. Right above that is love and belonging. There are other pieces to this theory, but these three levels are where traffickers camp out. Here is where we have the answer to why so many women and children fall prey to traffickers. Let’s look at them in reverse.

When a child perceives a lack of love and belonging (whether this is true or not) they will seek it out down the path of least resistance. This means if parents get too busy, work too much, or aren’t meeting this vital relational need, our kids won’t think twice about finding it someplace else. For example, if a cute guy shoots them a quick message of “Hey beautiful,” in a private forum, this child may respond. Because who doesn’t want to be called beautiful? “It’s about time someone told me this.” We call this “gang mentality.” No one wakes up one day and says, “I think I want to be in a gang,” or, “It’s Tuesday? Maybe I’ll look into working with a pimp.” It happens slowly and steadily and sometimes right under our noses. As parents, we pull back in the tween and teen years instead of staying the course to walk along our kids when they frankly need us just as much if not more. They are faced with heavy amounts of temptations of drugs, drinking, peer pressure, bullying, heavy school loads, stress, the future, and the added pressures of the online world.

The next two levels introduce us to another type of trafficking. We call this “survival sex” which is just as difficult to stomach as you imagine. Many minors agree to work with traffickers as a favor and in return for goods or the promise of basic needs met. iPhones, new clothes and shoes, food, rent, a family, shelter, a job, money (albeit not much). These are some things we have seen traffickers use as payment. For a child not receiving these, it’s easy to understand why something as simple as sex would be a worthy trade.

5. There is no way to put an end to human trafficking. 

This is the biggest myth of them all, and the one traffickers want you to keep believing. It’s big. There’s no denying that trafficking is an epidemic across the world. But, if you have a voice, you also have the opportunity to bring about change. It begins with talking to your kids, your neighbor’s kids, your students, and any kids you know. Talk to other moms and dads, teachers, uncles and aunts. Get the conversation to the forefront instead of letting the bad guys be the most vocal here.

Bringing awareness where traffickers hope to keep everything hidden will remove our children’s vulnerability. Then, we have to be all in. I mean all in. For all 18 years (and then some) we decide we are going to be fully committed and in relationship with our kids. We agree to talk about hard things and be the ones who tell our children how valuable they are, so they never have to look for that affirmation someplace else. Finally, we can be so dedicated to this cause of raising kids that we stay connected to whoever they are connected to. We skip the temptation that comes to be hands off parents because we’ve been doing this for years, and they seem fine now.

“They don’t need me to be as involved now.” Don’t fall for that. Our kids need a place to bounce ideas and push back with safe boundaries and know you aren’t going to quit loving them enough to hold them accountable. They want us to ask the hard questions ahead of time so when they are approached by someone unsafe, they already know how to handle it. They know they can count on you to hear them.

Be all in. Because if we aren’t, there is someone waiting be just what your little girl thinks she needs.

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Programs by Del Laine

  • September 12          Business Meeting, President Pam Barrett, Harveys Emerald Bay
  • September  15          Sample the Sierra, Lake Tahoe South Shore Chamber of     Commerce, a fundraiser for us too!, Bijou Park, noon to 5 p.m.
    September 19           STEM Camp Program, Jamie Orr (Roberta Mason), Harveys Emerald Bay
    September 22            19th Annual Sunset Gala, Live Violence Free, Jane Flavin, Harveys Roof Top, 5:30 p.m.
    September 26           Technical and Sevice Committees, President Pam Barrett, SLT Library
    October   1                 Board Meeting, President Pam Barrett, LTCC, Room 106A, 5:30 p.m. 
    October   3                 Business Meeting, President Pam Barrett,
    October   5                  Dance of Hope, Music and Dance performed by children from  Uganda, Tahoe Arts Project, Peggy Blowney 542-3632, MontBleu, 7:00 p.m.  Adults $10.00, Children accompanied by an adult Free
  • Check back to this article in the newsletter for regular updates to Programs, or view them in the Calendar.
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September Birthdays

Happy Birthday September!

Linda LaFavor-Coyle

9/5

Norma Severloh

9/6

Sue Novasel

9/12

Vicki J. McKenna

9/19

Norma Smith

9/28

Roberta Mason

9/30

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Attendance Reminder

Just a reminder to all that your RSVP to the weekly attendance notice is important.  

  • We need to give Harrah’s numbers by 12:30 on the Monday before a meeting.  An accurate count keeps our expenses way down and helps Harrah’s plan the amount of food they need. 
  • Remember that if you register properly you will receive both an immediate acknowledgement at the site AND an email thanking you for registering.  
  • If you forget or think something is wrong, you can email or call me to get on the list. We always try to accommodate you.

Attendance Committee
Linda Mitchell     530-541-2635
lakecatt@gmail.com

**AND PLEASE LET US KNOW IF SOMETHING CHANGES AND YOU ARE UNABLE TO COME ONCE YOU HAVE REGISTERED! 

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